Hey Jealousy

Let Them Chase

You’re not wrong for feeling what you feel. Whether it’s jealousy, anger, sadness, confidence?—these emotions aren’t mistakes. They’re signals. And the first step is to say hey.

That’s what Hey Jealousy by the Gin Blossoms is about—a song that feels alive and free even as it crashes through the wreckage of regret. It doesn’t run from the mess. It drives straight into it.

This isn’t about fixing yourself. It’s about admitting what’s already there.

Emotion as Data - Energy In Motion

The guy in Hey Jealousy “blew the whole thing years ago” with the best he ever had. But it’s not really about her. She’s just the symbol.

What he lost wasn’t her. What he lost was the connection to what he really wanted. Maybe it was her at the time. Maybe it’s still her now—or maybe it isn’t. That’s not the point. The point is that right now, years later, you have to lean into how you’re actually feeling to figure out what it is you really want now.

Did you blow it? That’s what happens when you either bury your emotions or burn through them too fast. You blow the whole thing—not with a person, but with yourself.

Jealousy doesn’t mean you’re insecure or petty. It means you care. It means you recognize something you want—something that, deep down, you know should be yours but, for whatever reason, feels out of reach.

What jealousy actually says is: This matters to you. Pay attention. And the sooner you admit that, the sooner you can start figuring out what to do about it.

Two Feelings, Not One

In programming, there’s a rule—a function should do one thing and do it well.

If jealousy doesn’t follow this rule for you, it’s because your internal programming needs attention.

Instead of just signaling what you want, you’re letting it do too much—tell you you’re broken, make you feel bad for wanting it, and then convince you it’s impossible to have. It’s overloaded. And when code gets overloaded? It stops working.

Jealousy is the signal—it’s pointing to something you want. Feeling stuck, ashamed, or frustrated about being jealous? That’s the response—and it’s completely separate. Stop pushing it down. Lean in. What’s underneath that jealousy? What does it actually want to show you?

Let yourself imagine it—what life would be like if you had what you’re craving. Forget about the person who triggered it. This isn’t about them. It’s about you.

The more you let yourself dream, the more you remember. Because jealousy isn’t really about lack. It’s about recognition. You’re not mad that someone else has it. You’re mad because you know it’s supposed to be yours.

Reclaiming What’s Yours

Astrology loves to talk about the “shadow” side of signs—Taurus is stubborn, Scorpio is controlling, Pisces ignores reality.

Ok? Who cares?

Being stubborn means you know what you want. Being controlling means you’re unwilling to let chaos run your life. Ignoring reality? Sometimes that’s the only way to dream something better into existence.

These traits aren’t flaws—they’re tools. But if you repress them, hide them, or pretend they aren’t there, they don’t disappear. They just go underground. And when that happens, they start running the show from the shadows.

The brilliance of Hey Jealousy is that it doesn’t stop moving. The car doesn’t pull over. The cops don’t win. You don’t need to fix every feeling the second it shows up. You don’t need to make yourself smaller before you’re allowed to feel okay. Fuck the thought police—that voice telling you you’re wrong for feeling jealous, wrong for wanting more, wrong for being human. Let them chase.

If you really don’t want to feel jealous anymore? Then stop apologizing for it and start listening. Let yourself imagine what you actually want—not as some impossible dream, but as something that’s already yours. Because it was never about them. It’s always been about you. Your life is yours to drive—you don’t need to keep the car in the garage forever.